Wasted...

Here’s the thing: Life is short, so, when it comes to the petty art of throwing shade- you know what I’m talking about—those sly digs, passive-aggressive comments, and thinly veiled insults that some people use to make themselves feel superior or to subtly put others down-I just can’t bring myself to waste my mental energy on it. It’s not that I don’t notice it when it happens; it’s that I see it for what it is: a complete waste of time.

Let’s get real—throwing shade is basically the adult version of playground gossip. It’s petty, it’s indirect, and it’s ultimately pointless. It might give someone a temporary boost to their ego, but in the grand scheme of things, what does it actually accomplish? Not much. Shade rarely leads to anything productive. It doesn’t solve problems, build relationships, or contribute anything meaningful to the conversation.

For me, engaging in shade feels like getting stuck in a loop of negativity, where the only goal is to one-up someone or make them feel small. But I’m not interested in playing those games. I’d rather focus on things that bring value to my life and to the lives of those around me—like honest communication, real connections, and, dare I say, lifting each other up instead of tearing each other down.

There’s also the fact that shade requires a level of calculation and manipulation that I just don’t have the patience for. It’s all about crafting the perfect comeback, timing the delivery just right, and making sure it hits its target without being too obvious. Frankly, that’s a lot of effort for something that, at best, makes someone else feel bad and, at worst, backfires completely. I

And here’s the real kicker: throwing shade doesn’t make you look clever or powerful. If anything, it shows that you’re more concerned with appearances and petty rivalries than with anything of real substance. It’s a cheap way to feel superior, but it’s not sustainable, and it doesn’t earn respect in the long run. People remember kindness, honesty, and integrity— and those are the paths I’m choosing to walk.

Summary of Key Points:

• Throwing shade is a waste of time and mental energy because it’s petty, indirect, and doesn’t accomplish anything meaningful.

• Shade is rooted in negativity and is more about making someone feel small than contributing anything valuable to a conversation.

• Engaging in shade requires unnecessary calculation and manipulation, which could be better spent on more constructive pursuits.

• Shade doesn’t earn respect or build real connections; it’s a cheap way to feel superior that ultimately adds no value to life.

• I prefer to invest my brain power in things that matter—like honest communication, problem-solving, and positive connections—rather than the futility of shade.